Comments on: Saying “No” To A Spoiled Child http://www.realmofprosperity.com/2008/09/saying-no-to-a-spoiled-child/ Tue, 02 Aug 2011 23:54:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 By: Stine http://www.realmofprosperity.com/2008/09/saying-no-to-a-spoiled-child/comment-page-1/#comment-113 Stine Thu, 04 Sep 2008 08:47:05 +0000 http://www.realmofprosperity.com/?p=216#comment-113 I fully agree with WMM above about "tantrum management". On the other hand, you did lie to him... Can you really blame him for being frustrated? He thought you were going to Toys'rUs, and his frustration grew - obviously. Lying to kids make them think that it's OK to lie, and also make them distrustful towards adults - you in particular. What you could have done? Explained why you couldn't go where he wanted, and told him he'd be allowed to play with your PSP later instead, if he behaved himself. He may still have been frustrated, but he'd know why it's not possible, and he'd have an alternative to look forward to. If there had been a tantrum anyway, you'd have to withhold the PSP. Sad and probably noisy, but that's what being consistent is all about! Best of luck next time! I fully agree with WMM above about “tantrum management”. On the other hand, you did lie to him… Can you really blame him for being frustrated? He thought you were going to Toys’rUs, and his frustration grew – obviously.
Lying to kids make them think that it’s OK to lie, and also make them distrustful towards adults – you in particular.
What you could have done? Explained why you couldn’t go where he wanted, and told him he’d be allowed to play with your PSP later instead, if he behaved himself. He may still have been frustrated, but he’d know why it’s not possible, and he’d have an alternative to look forward to. If there had been a tantrum anyway, you’d have to withhold the PSP. Sad and probably noisy, but that’s what being consistent is all about!
Best of luck next time!

]]> By: WiseMoneyMatters http://www.realmofprosperity.com/2008/09/saying-no-to-a-spoiled-child/comment-page-1/#comment-112 WiseMoneyMatters Wed, 03 Sep 2008 04:17:27 +0000 http://www.realmofprosperity.com/?p=216#comment-112 I think a lot of it comes to begin certain parenting strategies from the beginning. If every time you give your child a PSP when he throws a fit, it's just teaching him to always want to be entertained. A few stern "no" answers with your choice of punishment if they continue to throw a tantrum and they will start to learn. When I was a child, the second my dad mentioned a spanking, I shut up pretty much instantly. I was only spanked maybe 3 times as a child because after the first few I didn't want to be spanked anymore. Unfortunately bad parents take spanking too far and these days a spanking can result in a visit from CPS. Anyways, the point is that if you give a child something to appease them during tantrums, they will expect to be entertained in the future. I think a lot of it comes to begin certain parenting strategies from the beginning. If every time you give your child a PSP when he throws a fit, it’s just teaching him to always want to be entertained. A few stern “no” answers with your choice of punishment if they continue to throw a tantrum and they will start to learn. When I was a child, the second my dad mentioned a spanking, I shut up pretty much instantly. I was only spanked maybe 3 times as a child because after the first few I didn’t want to be spanked anymore. Unfortunately bad parents take spanking too far and these days a spanking can result in a visit from CPS.

Anyways, the point is that if you give a child something to appease them during tantrums, they will expect to be entertained in the future.

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